The Secret Language of Flowers

The secret language of flowers is an ancient tradition that dates back to antiquity, it was most widely used in the 19th century during Queen Victoria’s reign, the language sometimes called floriography is the arrangement of various flowers which are used to communicate certain sentiments and feelings, royalty often used the language to send coded messages to their secret lovers that they otherwise couldn’t speak. In modern day the use of floriography has nearly all but died except for roses which are still used to express feelings of love.

The use of the language was not just confined to certain flowers but also color, size, quality, placement, quantity, scent, presentation and arrangement, furthermore accepting a flower with the right hand would mean ‘yes’ yet using the left hand would mean ‘no’ also handing someone an inverted flower would have an opposite meaning such as an inverted red rose would be a message of dislike. Each individual flower has its own meaning yet when arranged with other flowers they convey a different message. Flowers were used to send many messages such as proposals, death threats, warnings of dangers, acceptance of offers and messages of love, just about any message you can think of there was a flower to convey the message.

The first book on floriography was written by a French women by the name of Madame Charlotte de la tour in 1819, the book tiled Le language Des Fleur offered guidance on sending coded messages to lovers with the use of flowers. If you wish to send someone a positive message take the time to learn the language so you can properly express the sentiment. The language and the floral meanings differ slightly in each country so be certain you check your country before sending a message to your lover.

The different color roses each convey a different message, a red rose means ‘true love’ whereas a yellow rose means ‘I just want to be friends and have a fling’, a white rose means pure thoughts and intentions while a white and pink rose means a proposal of marriage. You must be careful when sending flowers that you don’t send the wrong message for instance sending an orange lily means ‘I hate you’ and a yellow carnation means ‘rejection’ so until your are familiar with the language you are best to just give red roses.

Different amounts of roses have different meanings also, a single red rose means true love, 15 roses is an apology, twenty five roses are perfect for valentines day, fifty is unconditional love, 108 roses means marriage and 999 roses means eternal love so whatever the occasion there is a flower combination to express the feeling. You should decide first what kind of relationship you would like and where you would like it to go then choose the flower that’s appropriate. If its true love send a red rose if it’s a casual relationship a yellow rose, if your happy with the relationship use a white rose, if your got yourself into someone trouble a red and white rose would be ideal, it expresses unity and desire to end quarrels. If you wish to congratulate someone a yellow a red rose would be most suited. Now that you have the basics its time to choose the appropriate flower for your lover, below is a list a different flowers and their meanings.

Flowers and Their Meanings.

Flower Meaning
Asters Thinking of you
Bird of Paradise I’ll be faithful
Bergamot You are irresistible
Pink Camellia I wish for you
White Camellia You’re adorable
Pink Carnation I will never forget you
Red Carnation My heart to you
Striped Carnation Wishing to be with you
Yellow Carnation I am disappointed
White Chrysanthemum Truthful
Campanula You have my gratitude
Clover Be mine
Daffodil Only you
Daisy I’ll stay loyal to you
Forsythia I look forward to next seeing you
Fern Sincerity
Gardenia My secret lover
Gladioli Sincerity
Gloxinia Love at first sight
Hibiscus In love
Honeysuckle Deep bond
Hyacinth I am sorry, forgive me
Ivy Marriage
Yellow Hyacinth I am jealous
Iris Promise
Jasmine You have grace
Jonquil I love you too
Yellow Lily My hearts flying high
Lily of the Valley You complete my life
Lavender I wish you good luck
Lemon Balm I sympathize with you
Lilac My first true love
Orange Blossom Forever love
Orchid You’re beautiful
Peony To a happy life
Periwinkle Happy memory
Phlox Deep soul connection or agreement
Primrose I can’t live without you
Coral Rose I want you
Lavender Rose I am enchanted by you
Orange Rose You are fascinating
Pink Rose True love
White Rose I’ll be true to your heart
Yellow Rose I want to date but, nothing serious
Red Rose I love you
Snap Dragon I enjoy our relationship
Spider Flower Lets elope
Red Tulip My perfect love
Yellow Tulip You have a beautiful smile
Venus Flytrap I finally got you
Blue Violet Promise to be faithful
White Violet I’ll be true to you
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